Tag Archives: #WalkInRed

Acceptance is a Journey: Acceptance, Love, and Self-care #AutismPositivity2015

Acceptance is a journey
And it is one we will always be on
No matter how far we travel there is always further to go.

I learn about myself
What I can do
How I can do it
What I need to do differently
And how I can do better
But I can always learn more

I need to let myself stop and do those better ways
Even when I think I accept myself
I learn
And I challenge my understanding of myself

Acceptance is a journey
One I’m always undertaking
Pushing myself farther
Making myself more okay with who I am and how to best live in this world

Challenges will always occur
And I need to step up to them
Letting myself live in a way better for me
Letting myself be happier with who I am

Acceptance is a journey
One I must be on
Spreading to others
Sharing my message
Of hope
Of love
Of how it is not a bad thing to live as I do

Of how every person is worthy
And how you shouldn’t deny someone their humanity
Because of not understanding them

Acceptance is a journey
One that can be hard
But one that is worthy
To undertake
Because we will always make more progress
Towards a better life

 

Original Post: http://turtleisaverb.blogspot.ca/2015/05/acceptance-is-journey-acceptance-love.html

24230-autismpositivity2015button

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

AlwaysAspiegirl: Acceptance, Love, and Self-care #AutismPositivity2015

By AlwaysAspiegirl

I am a huge fan of Autistic Acceptance, both by those of us who are Autistic, to those with Autistic kids, to those who don’t really have that much connection to anyone with Autism (as far as they know anyway). I think that everyone should have a good dose of acceptance when they think of Autistic people, and realize that there are great struggles there, but also great beauty! Having autism is just our life. Just like you have your life, we have our life. It’s not like we know what it’s like to be anything else.
I love that I am not “normal”! I love that I don’t fit into the mold of “normal” people around me. I love that I do my own thing and that it really doesn’t bother me that I’m alone doing it. I love that I am a part of the whole of humanity that comes in all different colors, shapes, sizes and brains! I love that I have my own specific role, different from everyone else.
I love that I can’t stop researching things! I am totally obsessed with learning things! Sometimes, though, I get frustrated when I run into things that either haven’t been studied, or written about, because then I can’t get my question answered! But I love that when I get interested in something, I look at it from every angle – contrary to what people think – and that I’m so certain when I’ve decided something that I can’t just be tossed around by every wind.

Read entire post: http://alwaysaspiegirl.blogspot.ca/2015/05/alwaysaspiegirl-acceptance-love-and.html

a6620-925e0399dd2041d17f9d40e6390963bb

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

A Road To Me: Acceptance, Love, and Self-care #AutismPositivity2015

By Brigid Rankowski

Fridays are normally a “social” night. However, the upcoming weeks will be breaking mybrainalittle bit with all the social.Startingright now, the next and last free day I’ll have until June 4th is this upcoming Thursday. I’ll be traveling to 4 different states for multiple events.Yes, I’m very glad I recently purchased new tires.I’m willing to drive hundreds of miles in the upcoming weeks with loads of social interactions and new experiences for one simple reason.I found communities where I can be myself 100%.

My trips will take me to two major flow events. For these weekends, I can spin my props until I can’t feel my hands anymore. Then I’ll spin using other body parts just to keep spinning. Reconnecting with amazing people who don’t flinch at my obscure pop culture references allows me to be social in my own special way. I literally get to talk about or indulge my special interests almost non-stop and it’s so liberating.

I’m free to be me.

Self Love is a work in progress for me. There have been deep dark holes in my past where I didn’t like myself. I fell into the spiral of negativity; which has ALWAYS been around my social interactions with people. Saying the wrong thing, doing something awkward, laughing at the wrong time, getting lost in the conversation: those little things other people never paid attention to or noticed ate me up from the inside.

Then one day I woke up and realized who I am.
I’m Brigid.
There is no one else exactly like me in the entire world.

Every day is a new change to play and explore the world around me. The first steps to fully embracing myself involve not being so judgmental or holding myself to lofty expectations. My apartment will never be spotless and my laundry will only be fully put away when it decides to communicate with me. “Perfect” is an illusion we create of some imaginary life we think we are supposed to have.

Instead of being social tonight, I’m taking it easy at home. I’ve defrosted a pizza and have a bottle of wine. It’s an Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind type of night as I get things prepared for an active weekend in front of me. Tonight needs to be restful so I’m on top of my game for this weekend. Take it easy on yourselves and treat each other well.

And maybe it’s funniest of all
To think I’ll die before I actually see
That I am exactly the person that I want to be
Amanda Palmer – In My Mind
AutismPositivity2015

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

The Black Autist #AutismPositivity2015

By Timotheus “Pharaoh” Gordon

Great news everyone!! I will be hosting a panel at MomoCon two Saturdays from tomorrow and it will be on my insights on “With the Light”, a manga series that follows a family of an autistic boy and his progression throughout his childhood.

I will be wearing an autistic acceptance shirt on that day. It will have two things:

– The front will be a 3-D outline of African, filled with pan-African colors. On the outline it reads “Autism Acceptance”, with the neurodiversity symbol in the middle of it.

– On the back, the shirt will have the famous quote from Dr. Temple Grandin: “I am different, not less”. Below it is InuYasa in half-demon form. InuYasha embodies Grandin’s quote because he’s still strong and capable of fighting for what’s right, despite being half human and half dog demon.

Original Post: http://blackautist.tumblr.com/post/119066102467/autism-acceptance-t-shirt-for-momocon-panel-great

tumblr_nof2oi1tSc1us5q6ro1_500

 

 

 

 

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

The Modern Epicure #AutismPositivity2015

By Alanna Rose Whitney

Epicureanism gets overlooked and it really is a shame.

The first thing that comes to mind might be epicurious.com, a website for recipes – and thus the idea of epicureanism as it parallels the indulgence of a gourmand. Or maybe it is something you associate with hedonism and bacchanalia. Or maybe it’s something you have never heard of before at all…

image

Image Description: Cropped close; the author’s mouth partially open with her hand wearing red nail polish holding a raspberry next to it.

The truth is that epicureanism is a lot more fundamental than that. It’s not some gluttonous, materialistic, irresponsible philosophy based in decadence and excess. Epicures do value pleasure as the most important thing in life but it is essential to understand that in this context, the word pleasure does not imply ecstasy but rather an absence of pain.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epicureanism

The basic tenets of epicureanism declare that the foremost goal in life should be existing in a state free from any kind of significant suffering. Obviously you can’t prevent every bad possibility from ever occurring, but the point is more about preventing unnecessary ills than sheltering oneself from the hardships of our world. Fighting for human and civil rights is epicureanism in action.

I have never understood the vilification of pleasure as sinful, “everything in moderation” is a much better motto. The purpose of life has always been crystal clear to me; experience every new thing you possibly can while you’re still here and do your best to help make those opportunities available to everyone else – and never stop learning. Epicureanism was something I believed in long before I even had a name for what it was.

image

Image Description: A glass bottle made to look like a crystal skull filled with dried red and yellow/pink rose petals.

My hypersensitivity and sensory perception make it impossible for me not to see the value in both physical and mental satisfactions. The idea of “sins of the flesh” stems from the concept that physical pleasure is a distraction from God or academia or morality and that is entirely ridiculous because grounding oneself in sublimity frees the mind to invent and create in interesting ways. Yes, some people do their best work under stress, but in general a positively enjoyable atmosphere is far more conducive to progress and innovation.

The moral of the story?
Stop and smell the roses once in a while ❤

image

Image Description: A wordsquare comprised of the words; rose, opal, says and else. On either side is an illustrated pink rose, one upright and the other facing down.

It’s the same basic idea as “self-care” is within the Disabled/Autistic/Neurodiverse/etc communities. You have to take care of yourself first because it’ll help you hold onto your spoons longer. When someone is tired, hungry, sad or angry, stressed out or worn down – then that person isn’t likely to get much done at all, which will, in turn, make them feel even worse.

So take the time to get a restful sleep, have a decadent and nutritious meal, engage in hobbies or activities that bring you pleasurable mental and/or physical stimulation. Overworking yourself is and endless cycle because the more you push the lower your stamina gets and then you have to try that much harder just to keep up.

Take a break and enjoy the spirit of #AutismPositivity2015

image

Image Description: “Autism Positivity 2015 Flash Blog” in black text over a colourful image; six hands of different colours, each rotated in a different direction. Each hand is against a background/rectangle of a different colour as well.

Original Post: http://alannarosewhitney.tumblr.com/post/119075021964/the-modern-epicure

2 Comments

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

Grimalkin on AtheismPlus: Acceptance, Love, and Self-care #AutismPositivity2015

By Kit “Grimalkin” Partin

Acceptance, love, and self care.

What does all that really mean? Acceptance and love can mean so much.

Sometimes, people say they accept you, but it’s in spite of who you are, not for who you are.

Sometimes, people say they love you, but it’s a means of getting something they want. It’s a tool.

And self-care, in mainstream culture, is selfish. You’re supposed to care for everyone else in the world before yourself.

 

Well, there’s a place where all of that doesn’t apply. That place is the world of autistic culture.

Acceptance. Acceptance in Autistic Culture isn’t about accepting you despite your flaws. It’s not even about telling you your flaws aren’t flaws (I mean, sometimes they really aren’t flaws, but I digress). It’s about accepting you for your flaws…

Read entire post here: http://atheismplus.com/blogs/grimalkin/2015/05/15/grimalkin-on-atheismplus-acceptance-love-and-self-care-autismpositivity2015

#AutismPositivity2015

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

Yes, That Too: Acceptance, Love, and Self-care: #AutismPositivity2015

By Alyssa Hillary

I have been writing less on my blog since… well, ever since I left for China at the end of August 2013. Spending an academic year at a university that really, really did not want me to be there was extremely draining, and I’ve already written a lot of things on this blog. I’m not really out of things to say, because there are always new ideas and new connections and new events, but I’m low on energy to say them here, so I am posting less often than I used to. (I used to post every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and that hasn’t been the case since 2013.)

That’s OK, and deciding that it’s OK is part of my accepting my limits and taking care of myself, which is this year’s theme…

Read the rest of this wonderful post: http://yesthattoo.blogspot.com/2015/05/yes-that-too-acceptance-love-and-self.html

c181a-cropped-autismpositivitybanner3

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

#AutismPositivity2015: Morénike style :)

By Morénike Onaiwu

Not long ago, a dear friend messaged to gently inquire about this flash blog. It was very sweet of her to ask, and it also served as a helpful reminder for me to try my best to set aside the time to do so. This is my first year participating; last year I wrote an #AutismPositivity flash blog post, my daughter wrote a post, and my entire family created a collaborative post – all of which I forgot to submit and one of which I have since lost! This year, fortunately, is different.

So, about self-care and honoring one’s limits…
What a necessary and seemingly simple concept that in reality is so difficult for many Autistics, myself included, to actually do. We preach balance but sometimes (perhaps often) are guilty of not practicing it. This tendency puts us at risk for burnout, breakdown, or other emotional and/or physical crises. If we won’t take a break, if we won’t allow ourselves the needed time to be still and heal, then eventually the body and the mind will seize for itself the time we won’t give up – and not necessarily in a favorable way. So difficult as it is, we must engage in the “radical act” (per Audre Lord) of self-care. All people need it, but I believe Autistics in particular need to be reminded of this, especially activists and/or Autistic parents. And we should partake in it without feeling weak or guilty or deficient.
 ~
So here, in no particular order, are some of the ways I try to practice self-care:
I relish the small ways that I have learned to try to take better care of myself. I might take a break by riding in the car in silence to clear my head or blasting music I like when I’m headed somewhere rather than using that time to return phone calls or check up on things. I leave social events early or skip them altogether if it’s too much for me. We have replaced all of the light bulbs in my home with the type that imitate sunlight rather than subjecting myself to harsh fluorescent lights that drain me.
~
I shower in the semi-dark with super hot water and take my time in there (I used to feel guilty because I know our planet has a water shortage, but I know giving myself a little more time in the water is therapeutic for me and that I support water conservation in many other ways, so I don’t guilt myself anymore). When I go to a restaurant if I want dessert first or with my meal, I order it rather than feeling sheepish about it.
~
I often text, email, and message people rather than speaking or meeting up with them (unless I’m up for it). I grocery shop late at night when it’s quieter and less crowded. I take “staycations” when needed to regroup. I stand up for myself instead of being the “nice girl” AKA doormat that I was in ages past. I pray and draw strength and peace from my Christian faith. I read any book I please – a deep complex text one moment, a young adult fiction novel the next. I write – and write – and write.
 ~
A few months ago, I came to terms with my severe dislike for listening and responding to voicemail. I hate listening to voicemail with a passion and they can pile up for months. And then I become anxious about missing something important and/or being perceived as rude for not checking and replying to them. I finally decided that as a woman in my 30’s I shouldn’t have to make any more apologies for not getting a message. I called the phone company and had them completely remove the voicemail option from my phone altogether. Now no one can leave me a message. People may think it’s weird, but I don’t care. It works for me, it doesn’t hurt others, and it’s healthy for me. Even if it is unconventional or a little inconvenient for others, it is right for me, and therefore I will continue.
 ~
And essentially, that’s how I see self-care. It’s the little things and the big things that help us to be a better person and help make the hard things we do more bearable. It’s my son’s kisses raining upon my face. My daughter’s melodious laughter. Qualify time with my teen sons and daughter. My husband’s knowing glance followed by his smile. Playing scripts again and again through my mind for comfort. Running my tongue in the same pattern across my gums and teeth in a relaxing stim. Being my authentic self. Me – without regret, without shame, without apology. That’s self-care.
 ~
Self-care, I believe, is being real. Self-care is self-love.
~

Original Post: http://whoneedsnormalcy.blogspot.ca/2015/05/autismpositivity2015-morenike-style.html

 

1 Comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts

What Self-Care Means To Me #AutismPositivity2015

By FeministAspie

#AutismPositivity2015

This post has been a frustrating one to start, because at the moment self-care is something I have a lot of feelings about, but it takes so many different forms that I don’t know what to focus on. Self-care varies, because people vary, but here are some ways in which I (at least try to!) practice self-care:

Disregarding “normal”. This might sound obvious, but it’s easier said than done when the neurotypical standards aren’t just present in your own minds, but in the minds of others and in the very fabric of a society not designed to accommodate people like us. This year I’ve had to try and unpack every single “I’m not X enough” standard I have – I mean literally typing out every single one I could think of – and counter them, one by one. I am learning to compare myself to me, six months ago, a year ago, three years ago, but not to my peers, because they’re not me, they’re all their own person, and most of them are neurotypical. This year, I have grown – my experience wasn’t necessarily what I expected, or what was expected of me, or what my friends have experienced, but I have grown.

Special interests. (No, I don’t like the term either, but nobody’s thought of anything better yet…) Escaping the rest of the world, engaging, pacing and spinning around the room and *gasp* not feeling guilty or childish for it. If they can have their big night out, I get to have this.

Accepting online interaction as real, valid interaction. Because it is.

Actually genuinely really being honest. This is a very very VERY recent thing for me, and it’s been brought about for two main reasons. Firstly, to cut a long story short, there is a space where friends are dropping our socially-acceptable masks and talking about our worries and fears and realising we’re actually not alone in them. Secondly, out of necessity, because I haven’t exactly been feeling 100% this week and I needed to have somebody here who understands and can help me out where necessary. I have definitely internalised the idea that if I am still capable of asking for help then I obviously don’t need it and nobody will believe me; I also often fall into the trap of assuming an allistic person probably doesn’t really understand whatever my problem is. Neither of these things are true. Showing vulnerability is hard for me, and this is going to be a slow process, but you’d be surprised by the level of support and empathy that’s there, given the chance – and who knows, you might encourage others to do the same.

Writing notes to myself. This is something I’ve done on-and-off for a couple of years, mostly just on my phone and laptop. I look back over them when I’m feeling useless and pathetic, and they remind me that I’m not.

Lists. For when there’s so many thoughts competing for my attention that I have no idea how to proceed with my day.

Acknowledging invisible strength. That is to say, feeling proud of having done something that scares or overwhelms you even when that’s not noticed because to the neurotypical majority, it’s just normal and everyday. Sometimes, for many of us, that stuff is everyday – and even if I do say so myself, that is really, really brave. Recognising that helps me to recognise when I need to step back and recharge, why I’m feeling crappy and how to fix it (where possible), and how best to prioritise when spoons are low.

Taking things one day at a time. The next couple of months have very scary elements, next year seems impossible, and the future is a dark and terrifying void. But today? I can do today. The chances are I can even do tomorrow.

Original Post: https://feministaspie.wordpress.com/2015/05/15/what-self-care-means-to-me-autismpositivity2015/

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Flash Blog Posts

Autistic Academic on Acceptance, Love, and Self-Care #AutismPositivity2015

By Dani Alexis Ryskamp

autismpositivity2015button

Yesterday, I gave the first academic conference presentation of my career: a paper on narratives of cognitive/developmental difference vs “monstrous”/changeling difference in late antiquity and the Middle Ages.*  You can check out the livetweeting from it here.

Overall, the talk went well and seemed to be very well-received.  The Q&A session immediately following was very productive, from my point of view, and I had several people thank and/or congratulate me over the course of the day – not just people who knew it was my first talk and were offering support, but also people I’d never met before who were responding to the content.

And, as has become my norm in any setting where I’m talking about autism, I told them I was autistic.

I always wonder what people think when I disclose in an academic setting.  No doubt some of them think I’m either “surprisingly articulate for an autistic” and/or “so high-functioning” based on the impression they’ve formed of me while I’m talking.  I consider it my duty to give my audience the best work I can provide in the time I have, and I literally prepare for days ahead of time to ensure I can navigate venues smoothly, have sufficient “word power” in my reserve to talk through the allotted time,** and can generally give the best presentation of my work that I can.  My work and my audience deserve no less.

But when people see me in that sort of venue, there are two things they don’t see…

Read the rest of this powerful and important post here: http://autisticacademic.com/2015/05/15/autistic-academic-on-acceptance-love-and-self-care-autismpositivity2015/

Leave a comment

Filed under Acceptance Love and Self-care, Autism Positivity 2015, Autism Positivity Flash Blog, Flash Blog Posts