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Zero to one thousand: that cynking feeling celebrates 1000 ausome things #AutismPositivity2013

This post was originally published by Cynk of That Cynking Feeling, at http://cynk.wordpress.com/2013/04/30/zero-to-one-thousand-that-cynking-feeling-celebrates-1000-ausome-things-autismpositivity2013/, and is reprinted here with permission from the author.


Today is the last day of April. It is final day of the Blogging from A to Z Challenge. The 30th marks the end of Autism Acceptance Month. It seems like today is all about conclusions.

However, today also marks the start of something: the 2013 Autism Positivity Flash Blog. This is the second year for the flash blog (click here to read about how the project got started). I participated last April, too. This year’s theme is “1000 Ausome Things.”

Since my brain is on the alphabet, I immediately thought of zero. The community that is coming together for this event is starting from nothing; in fact, one could say we are starting in the negatives. To counteract the stigma, the fear and the outright hate of autism, bloggers are joining together to share stories of hope and acceptance.  Participants will join the flash blog in the way that suits them best: positive blog posts, images, tweets and Facebook messages. I can’t wait to see them all.

I said I was going to participate, but I couldn’t think of how. Make a list of 1,000 things by myself? The thought was overwhelming only hours before the flash blog was to begin. How could I finish it in time, especially now that it is the end of the month and the end of the challenge?

You know that old saying “the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step”? Sure, I may be starting from zero today, but just because I hit publish doesn’t mean I can’t come back to this theme. What if, for however many days it takes me, I searched for ausome things and put them on a list? Maybe in a month or two or three I’ll write a new story about how ausome my son is. I could assemble links to such posts and those written by others, to articles, to videos, to photos and images and to quotes that will inspire me to be a better advocate for my son.

And maybe, just maybe, someone else will stumble across my blog and read the list as it develops. And maybe that person will have hope where there once was despair. Or that person will learn acceptance where there once was only awareness.

So, today, I published a new page. It’s called “1000 Ausome Things.” This page will serve as the home of my collection of ausomeness. Today, I start with zero. I’m sure as I read contributions to the flash blog, it will quickly fill up. I hope I don’t have to do this alone; I welcome your suggestions. You can list them in the comments here or on the page.

Z is for zero.
I’ve been writing about autism acceptance during the month of April as part of the Blogging From A to Z Challenge.


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that cynking feeling to “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”: #AutismPositivity2012 Flash Blog

This post was originally published at http://cynk.wordpress.com/2012/04/30/that-cynking-feeling-to-i-wish-i-didnt-have-aspergers-autismpositivity2012-flash-blog/ and is reprinted here with permission of the author.


that cynking feeling to “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”: #AutismPositivity2012 Flash Blog

Dear “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”:

I don’t have Asperger’s Syndrome.

I think it’s important that I state that first and foremost. Not only to let you know, but to remind myself. I don’t personally know what life is like as experienced by someone with Asperger’s. My knee-jerk (emphasis on jerk) reaction is to tell you, “Oh, don’t say that. You don’t mean that.” I would have no right. I would be wrong.

I’m sure  you do mean that. You probably mean it more than people who wistfully say, “I wish had didn’t have curly hair,” or the ones that lament, “I wish I hadn’t inherited my father’s nose.”

Even though I don’t have your direct experience with Asperger’s, I do know what it is like to wonder “What if?” and to think about things I would change in life if I could. Some of those things are within my control, some are not.

I imagine that’s might be part of the reason you searched for the phrase, “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers.” This is not something that you have control over. You were probably wondering if anyone feels the same.

Today, lots of people are writing you letters. Most of them are more qualified than I am to speak to your experience. Let me tell you why I am writing today.

A few months ago, my three-and-a-half-year-old son was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. I would be lying if I said that it hadn’t crossed my mind to think, “I wish my son didn’t have autism.”

But he does. And I am gradually learning to accept that reality. Because autism is a part of him. And I love him with all my heart. With each passing day I am realizing that he is not the one who should or needs to change. I am. I’m the one who needs to become more self-less, more understanding, more patient, more creative, more tolerant.

I hope that you have many people in your life who love you as I do my son. If they do, they love for who you are right now. These people who love and support would change the world for you, not ask you to change.

You have a lot of other messages to read, so I’ll keep mine short. I just hope that the next time that you or someone else searches for the phrase “I wish I didn’t have asperbergers,” you will find these words of support.

Wishing you the best,

that cynking feeling


P.S. To give credit where credit is due:

This Autism Positivity Flash Blog Event is the brainchild of Thinking About Perspectives, a group of bloggers committed to increasing autism awareness and acceptance via open and respectful dialogue.  We are:  30 Days of Autism, Outrunning the Storm, The Third Glance, Aspie Kid, Flappiness Is, Quirky and Laughing, Life on the Spectrum, Fairy Tale Forgotten, The Aspie Side of Life, and Inner Aspie.

You don’t have to be a blogger to participate today. You can email your letter of support to autismpositivity@gmail.com. The organizers will post it on Autism Positivity Flash Blog site.

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