This post was originally published at http://nouske1971.wordpress.com/2012/05/01/to-i-wish-i-didnt-have-aspergers-autismpositivity2012/ and is reprinted here with permission from the author. (Links to a Dutch language blog, but post is in English). It also appears at http://aspienouschka.wordpress.com/2012/05/02/aspienouschka-to-i-wish-i-didnt-have-aspergers-autismpositivity2012/, an English-translated version of the author’s blog.
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I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers
I wish….I had known I had Aspergers ages ago! It would have made acceptance so much easier. It would have put all the pieces of the puzzle in the right spot a lot earlier on in life. I am 41 now, and only just figuring out what it means to be an ‘Aspie’.
Yes, there are clear downsides to Aspergers….tons of them. But they mean nothing compared to the benefits: my hyperfocus allows me to be good at what I do for a living; my dogged determination helps me to achieve whatever I set my mind to.
As far as the negative aspects go….when you are young, you learn a number of coping mechanisms for your ‘quirks’. Make sure you cultivate them well, they will last you a lifetime.
I’ve learned to shape my life in the way it is easiest to live with AS. That means that I don’t work in an office with colleagues, but all by myself. It means that I don’t go to events where there are large groups of people. It means I use earplugs whenever I feel the noise is getting to me. My best advice to someone who’s learning to live with Aspergers is: make sure your life fits you. Don’t do the things that make you meltdown. Surround yourself with people who are willing to understand you, and help you when you need it. Retreat when you need to. And do the things you really want to do, in your own way.
I’ve been places, I’ve studied in foreign countries, I’ve got a mortgage, I have my own company. All thanks to Aspergers, because that is part of who I am. Not all of it, but an important part of it….
Dutch explanation for my usual readers: Dit is een blog dat ik speciaal schrijf in het kader van http://30daysofautism.wordpress.com/2012/04/23/to-i-wish-i-didnt-have-aspergers-an-autismpositivity2012-flash-blog-event/
Iemand op dit blog kwam erachter dat er mensen zijn die op google zoeken naar zaken als “genezing Asperger” etc. Om mensen die dergelijke dingen zoeken een hart onder de riem te steken, schrijven veel mensen uit de Asperger-wereld een blog, zodat de volgende persoon die zoekt op google naar ‘I wish I didn’t have Aspergers’ allemaal positieve dingen over Aspergers te lezen krijgt.