This post was originally published at http://mumtoj.wordpress.com/2012/04/30/to-i-wish-i-didnt-have-aspergers-linking-up-with-autismpositivity2012/ and is reprinted here with permission from the author.
To “I wish I didn’t have aspergers” linking up with #AutismPositivity2012
I wrote a post last year about a conversation I overheard my then 5 yr old had with his Dad……………. He’d told his Dad that he just wanted to be “normal” and didn’t want to have Aspergers anymore. Since then we’ve done lots of work with him trying to explain that nobody is “normal” and everyone’s idea of normal is different but that having Asperger’s Syndrome just makes him that extra bit special.
You see before J I worked with children, I’ve worked with alot of children in different roles, even some special needs children. Every child I’ve worked with has taught me something, some have taught me more than others, however not one of those children have taught me as much as my son. Apart from love, patience, understanding and ofcourse everything there is to know about Mario he’s also taught me that superheroes can come in all shapes and sizes. Yes he’s my Hero.
I don’t have Aspergers but I do have OCD and I know just how hard some simple little things can be but I can’t even begin to imagine how hard everyday can be for him. At 6 he deals with it, he is simply amazing. He’s so incredibly smart too, I look in his eyes and I can see him trying to work things out in his mind. And when he shows emotion, it’s real. So he only really does sad, angry or happy but it’s real. He also struggles to lie, in my eyes that’s a great thing, we’re always honest with each other. J having Asperger’s Syndrome has taught me to really appreciate the little things in life.
It’s hard because he’s only 6 but we try to explain that Asperger’s Syndrome isn’t who he is but it is a part of him and although some days can be tough we wouldn’t change that part of him or any other part of him because he is who he is and we love him for the being the person that he is.
So to “I wish I didn’t have Aspergers” I’m going to remind you that somewhere out there are people who care about you because you are who you are and Aspergers is just a part of you, it’s not all of you, it’s an extra special part of you. I don’t know if that will make sense to you, I hope it does. Take care x