This post originally appeared at http://micheleschwien.com/to-i-wish-i-didnt-have-aspergers-an-autism-positivity-2012-flash-blog-event/ and is reprinted here with permission from the author.
To “I Wish I Didn’t Have Asperger’s”: An Autism Positivity 2012 Flash Blog Event
Be still …
Be still …
Be still has nothing to do with lack of movement – lack of action. Be still is all about doing what you are meant to do. Be still is about acceptance.
Be still is realizing that not everyone has the same skills. And that means other people will not be drawn to do the same thing as you. They will not have the same motivation and feel as passionate about it. And that’s okay. It’s okay for you to be you.
Be still is expecting that there will be conflicts but knowing that there are also solutions. Arguments are okay. Meanness is not.
Be still includes seeing humor in blunders. We all make mistakes. The world will not end because we goof up. It’s okay to laugh at yourself.
Be still also means not forcing people who have skills similar to yours to act like you do and to do it your way. It’s okay that they do not conform to you.
Be still means having your beliefs and opinions while recognizing other people may think something else. It’s okay that we can look at the exact same thing and see it differently.
Be still means not comparing yourself with others and feeling dissatisfied with what you have and then becoming resentful of how other people are using the skills that they have been given. It’s okay that the scale of achievement is different for different people.
Be still is about you doing what you are meant to do without feeling anxious or worried or scared or intimidated or insecure or bitter or angry or jealous of other people. Everyone has times when they feel these things. Practice putting those feelings into perspective. Remember to breathe. It’s okay to ask for help.
“The antidote for fifty enemies is one friend.” (Aristotle) Please know you are not alone. You are accepted. We are here with you.
Be still is accepting that you are you. You matter. You have meaning. You are worthwhile. You have something to contribute.
It’s okay for you to be you. And it’s okay for me to be me.
We all need friendly reminders of what it means to be still