To “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”: An #AutismPositivity2012 Flash Blog Event

A couple of weeks ago, someone somewhere googled “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”.  The phrase popped up in a blogging dashboard and struck the blogger as being particularly sad.  She wished she could have answered.

We don’t know who it was.  We don’t know where he/she lives.  We have no idea if he/she found what he/she was looking for in that search.

We do know that search directed that person to a blog.  We do know the searcher clicked on it in an attempt to find what they needed.  And we do know enough about the challenges of autism to know that person is likely not alone in that sentiment.

So, we got to thinking.  What would we say to that person?  What if it was a kid, desperately trying to make it through tough years of intolerance and ignorance?  What if it were a person who might never stumble across the amazing voices speaking for autism acceptance?  What if that person thought himself/herself all alone?  What would we say about the present?  What would we say about the future?  What would we say about happiness?  And hope?

Each of us in the autism community –- self-advocates, parent advocates, friends and family, teachers, health professionals—we would all have different messages for #IWishIDidn’tHaveAspergers.  But likely we would all try to send the message that there is a brighter future and that friendship and support are out there.

We are asking every blogger in the autism community to write a message of positivity to #IWishIDidntHaveAspergers.  So that next time that individual (or another) types that sad statement into Google, he or she will find what they need – support, wisdom, and messages of hope from those who understand.

And – for those of you who do not blog but wish to join in – please post your positivity message to or send us an email at

Please join with us on the last day of Autism Awareness/Acceptance Month – April 30th – in a flash blog of autism positivity.

To participate:

  1. Publish your post on April 30th in the following title format:  “[Your Blog] to ‘I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers: #AutismPositivity2012”.
  2. Share your post on Twitter and Facebook, using that hashtag.
  3. Add your link to the Autism Positivity website and grab the badge:
  4. Share/reblog this message to your blog, page, etc.

This Autism Positivity Flash Blog Event is the brainchild of Thinking About Perspectives, a group of bloggers committed to increasing autism awareness and acceptance via open and respectful dialogue.  We are:  30 Days of Autism, Outrunning the Storm, The Third Glance, Aspie Kid, Flappiness Is, Quirky and Laughing, Life on the Spectrum, Fairy Tale Forgotten, The Aspie Side of Life, and Inner Aspie.


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19 responses to “To “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”: An #AutismPositivity2012 Flash Blog Event

  1. Love this! Will be joining you. Brilliant idea. 🙂

  2. I really love this idea. I have every intention of joining in (and that’s as close to a commitment as ANYONE can get out of me these days). Thanks for sharing!

  3. I really want to join! So I will repost this message on my blog!

  4. Missus Tribble

    I’ve already deliberated over, written and saved what I intend to post. As an autistic adult with an autistic teen I’m a keen advocate for getting people to see the positives in being autistic.

  5. Excellent idea. I’m in!

  6. Circling back to let you know that I reblogged AND wrote this post. So proud of everyone!

    We are here: An online community mobilizes to help its own –

  7. Pressed it to ProfMomEsq and published to my Facebook page with a message encouraging participation. Very excited to take part in this with a fantastic group!

  8. Sandi

    Reblogged this on Sandi Layne and commented:
    I think this is a great idea and plan to participate!

  9. Reblogged on I hope to gather my words! Awesome idea!

  10. Richard Colburn

    I wish I didn’t have Aspergers: #AutismPositivity2012

    Having Aspergers isn’t easy to live with for anyone, although being a Spectrum condition, some people with Aspergers (seem to) cope better than others – but for all we know those with Aspergers who seem to be coping well (which usually just means better than us) may go home every night and weep!

    The fact is that you do have Aspergers and that isn’t going to change.

    The wording of your search inquiry suggests two things.
    1. That you KNOW that you have Aspergers
    2. By definition that you are probably sufficiently intelligent to understand what this means, or at least to be able to find out what this means.

    Not everyone who has Aspergers realizes that they have Aspergers.
    – Some will discover this late in life
    – Others will never find out and live out their lives in continuing confusion

    At the very least, learning that you have Aspergers gives you an opportunity to clear up some of your confusion, perhaps a lot of confusion.

    You can choose whether or not you take that opportunity, an opportunity that others with Aspergers don’t have and may never have.

    The psychological stages following the diagnosis of Aspergers (self diagnosis or formal diagnosis) can be something like this, although not necessarily in this exact order.

    1. Surprise/Shock
    2. Curiosity
    3. Rerunning your life experience and discovering that they now make more sense (perhaps even perfect sense), in the context of Aspergers
    4. Sadness/grieving/shock
    5. Anger
    6. Denial
    7. Tolerance
    8. Acceptance – the end stage of a grief reaction

    People with Aspergers tend to be more interested and more talented in the physical world rather than the social world, there are exceptions.

    So while those with Aspergers may not be suited to working as a Maitre d’, or a Wedding planner, they are often very well suited to vocations in the physical world, in some cases much better suited than those who do not have Aspergers.

    The ranks of Science, higher Academia, Engineering, Information Technology, the traditional ‘professions, composers, writers, artists, actors, film directors and producers, musicians and inventors are awash with those who exhibited clear and strong Asperger traits.

    You are in good company.

    I would encourage you to work at getting to the acceptance stage of having Aspergers, perhaps with professional help, because Aspergers is going to continue to be your life long companion and non-acceptance will not make Aspergers disappear.

    I would then encourage you, to spend time discovering your passion, (you may have discovered this already) and then to follow this passion using your unique gifts and perspectives, whatever your stage of life happens to be.

    I wish you well.

  11. Reposting on one of my favourite positive posts! Great idea! 🙂

  12. Not sure if this is how I am supposed to share my post but it is up on my website here:
    Going to tweet links to it now.

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