This post was originally published at http://parentingwithaspergers.blogspot.com/2012/04/parenting-with-aspergers-syndrome-to-i.html and is reprinted here with permission from the author.
Parenting with Asperger’s Syndrome to “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers” #AutismPositivity2012
Someone recently did a search with the words “I wish I didn’t have Aspergers.” One blogger felt it was incredibly sad and, as a result, a number of bloggers decided to light up the internet with Autism Positivity blogs and I was asked to participate.
I talked to my 12 yr old and asked how he felt about having aspergers. He shared the following:
Aspergers has it’s ups and downs but eventually you’ll find a way to cope with other people. I have a vast, limitless imagination that helps me build things in Minecraft or with Lego. I tell people exactly what’s on my mind and my mom helps me find ways to say it nicely. I feel happy when I meet someone else with Aspergers because it tells my brain that I’m not the only one. I feel like I can be friends with that person right away. – Maxwell C. Age 12
I feel very grateful that Max and I understand each other on a level nobody else does.
If I didn’t have Aspergers, it would be much more difficult for my son, and others on the spectrum, to know that they aren’t alone, to feel accepted and supported. I feel glad that I have Aspergers because I can pave the way for those younger or less experienced than me. I can offer hope to their parents that their kids will grow up and be successful and be ok.
I’m reminded of a quote I once read: Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first, make sure that you are not, in fact, simply surrounded by assholes.
You are amazing. You’re intelligent, you’re fun, you’re a good person, and you’re perfect just the way you are. Be different. Be YOU. Nobody else out there will ever be as good at that as you are.
Having aspergers does make it more difficult to do some things in life, including having relationships, whether friendly or romantic. But there is always someone out there for everyone. I have a lot of people I get along very well with and can truly consider friends. And I have a smaller circle of people I consider family – friends who are much closer than the rest. These are people who know much more about me than average and they still like me!
You’re likable, too. I sincerely hope you find these blog posts and read each and every one of them so you can see that you aren’t alone. I’ve had those moments, too, where I wished I didn’t have Aspergers (a meltdown really exhausted me recently), but ultimately, I’m quite happy that I do. I’m ok with myself.